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Confidence, Individuals, Well-being

Forgiveness and the Lover Archetype

Do you wonder if you are good enough? The pattern and the trap of this is that we are working from the outside in, looking for external validation to feel OK about ourselves. It just doesn’t work that way. We might enjoy some reprieve from the anxiety of thinking “I’m not enough”, but it will swiftly return because we are constantly looking for confirmation that we are OK from the outside. But it is not an outside job. The job is done from the inside. This is how it worked for me.

Confidence, Individuals

Boundaries for Nice Guys

Are you a Nice Guy? Do you strive to be agreeable, accommodating, prioritise other people's needs and ignore your own for a quiet life or to avoid confrontation? Being Nice may not be getting you all that you want. Being Nice might mean saying "yes" more than you really want to so that you feel liked, loved and accepted. All too often, the result is that you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, frustrated and resentful.

Confidence, Individuals

The Day Rejection Changed my Life for the Better

How are you when you experience rejection? When you do something that might lead to rejection, how do you behave? Do you hold back and not put in your all? When you take action, are you actually looking for acknowledgement from others? What happens if you don’t get it? How do you respond if the feedback is critical? Seeking acknowledgment from others is a trap. If you do that, you are outsourcing your power. At best, there is only temporary relief from the fear and worry of wondering “Am I good enough?” The feeling of relief comes from outside your self-from other people. There is NO freedom in that.

Confidence, Individuals

Sovereign Leadership- how to find your inner voice

What voice have you been trained to listen to? The external voice of teachers, parents, authority figures and those around you? Or the inner voice of your Sovereign Leadership? If you are anything like me, you are well trained in listening to the external voices. And, like me, you probably fought against those voices at certain times in your life.

Confidence, Individuals

Are you Standing tall in your Sovereign Leadership?

What if with a simple shift of your body, you could have 100% confidence in your leadership ability and decision making? Leadership is an inherent quality in all living things. In the language of archetypes, that inherent quality is Sovereign. All living things have the inherent ability to stand in their sovereignty. You can access your sovereignty by the way you stand and hold yourself. By bringing attention to the alignment, sensations and feelings in the body, you can embrace your Sovereign leadership.

Confidence, Individuals

What are the risks and rewards of hiding behind a mask?

Have you ever been in a job or a relationship where you felt that you were not being yourself? That by wearing a mask, you would fit in and make that job or relationship work somehow. Perhaps you really needed the job or felt like it was the job you “should” go for. Or maybe you didn’t want to be alone, so you were prepared to enter a relationship and hide parts of yourself or put on a show, so that you would feel loved? So, how do you get that authenticity back? How can you remove the mask?

Confidence, Individuals

Are you Following your Bliss- a Sovereign’s Journey

What brings you joy? What lights you up? If you were to “follow your bliss”, as Joseph Campbell said, what would you do? Who would you be? When I ask these questions, sometimes people say “well, that’s just fantasy!!” in a cynical way. If that’s you, this blog is not for you. If these questions touch a longing inside of you, a spark or flame that wants to burn brighter, then you might well find something interesting in what lies below.

Confidence, Individuals

Bowing to the Sovereign Within

When the coronavirus pandemic started, we were encouraged to use an “elbow bump”. An informal and COVID-safe greeting that replaced the handshake. In 2021, however, I have been introduced to the Corona Bow. I think I prefer bowing to bumping. It points to self-respect, mutual appreciation, trust and humility. But, what does bowing have to do with coaching?

Confidence, Individuals

Taking Conscious Control by Embodying Archetypes

When you’re under pressure, what tools do you use to ensure you respond effectively? How do you manage yourself when you are up against it? Life is full of challenging conversations, situations and relationships. As well as regularly facing volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity.

Confidence, Individuals

Embodying Confidence- discovering values through archetypes

The world has changed, there is no doubt about that. Coronavirus had altered the landscape of our lives personally, locally, nationally and globally. It has affected how we shop, work, educate our kids, travel, socialise and created so much uncertainty that is affecting the mental health of many people around the world.

Confidence, Individuals

Responsibility- how do you bear it?

How do you view responsibility? A necessary evil? Part of the blame game? Something to avoid at all costs? When you think of responsibility, do you get a sinking feeling in your stomach? Or does it lighten you and bring a thrill of what is possible, excitement and potential?

Confidence, Individuals

Archetypes in Lockdown- a north star and guiding light

There is an old samurai saying, “Adversity makes the man”. Challenging times build resilience. It is all too easy to get lost in fear and despair. So, it is good to know what signs to look for if you stray that way. And to have a North…

Confidence, Individuals

Saboteurs- are you listening to those negative voices that stop you achieving your dreams?

Do you have an inner voice that tells you are not good enough? Or declares you will not get a better job, or lose that weight you so desperately want to shift? May be that voice says you’re not intelligent or talented enough? Perhaps…

Confidence, Individuals

How do you Play the Inner Game of Confidence?

The Inner Game of Confidence is a funny thing. Most people would say they lack confidence. Others might say they need more confidence. These are the self-deprecating people who feel safer in the shadows and not drawing attention to themselves. …

Confidence, Individuals

Does Practice make Perfect?

Practice makes perfect If you are on the path of self-growth and development, you will be familiar with the idea that practice is essential. You may experience quick-wins, but if you are to have sustained and on-going growth, practice is…

Confidence, Individuals

Goal setting- do you only set professional goals, or personal goals too?

Do you set personal goals for yourself? If you do, are they only for work? Or do you set goals for your personal life as well? Are you focused on the journey or the destination? I have noticed with clients that they are often focused…

Confidence, Individuals

Seven steps to Presence

You are about to go into a challenging meeting or give a public talk and you can feel the butterflies in your stomach. The saboteur voices are loud in your head telling you that you are not good enough, who are you to be doing this, what if…

Confidence, Individuals

Confident- how do you grow as a person?

What does it mean to be confident? Would you call yourself confident? Are you confident in a particular area of your life or field of expertise? When you step into unexplored roles or arenas, do you struggle with confidence? Or are you…

Confidence, Confidence, Individuals, Organisations, Stress, Stress, Well-being, Well-being

What is life coaching- and what can it do for you?

Have you ever wondered what life coaching is? Or perhaps what it isn’t? The word “coaching” is used so broadly it can be a little confusing what people mean when they say “I am a coach” or “I offer coaching”. One of the first questions prospective clients ask me is “What is coaching and what can it do for me?”

Confidence, Individuals

Breaking habits- the biology, the metaphor and the action

Like all of us, you probably find it hard to change. We all have those habits that do not serve us fully, that we wished we could alter to give us more worthwhile and life-fulfilling outcomes. Habits are hard to break. Your awareness of…

Confidence, Individuals

Pain and the power of listening to heal relationships

How do you deal with emotional pain in your relationships? Do you allow sad or disappointing moments to get in the way of your relationships with people? Are joyous and fulfilling situations left uncelebrated, pushing you and your loved ones…

Confidence, Individuals

Your significant relationship- how are you showing up?

This week marks 2019’s designated day of Love- February 14th, Valentine’s Day. You could spend your time right now reading about the commerciality this brings and the hollowness or shallowness of this dedicated day to romance. Or you could…

Confidence, Individuals

Being stuck does not mean you have to remain stuck

What do you do when you feel stuck? You name it!!! Petra came to me feeling in limbo. She felt no motivation to do anything. No inspiration came to her to move forward. She felt isolated, stuck, mistrustful and withdrawn from the world. She…

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Confidence, Individuals

Self Growth- the Oak tree and the acorn

Does the prospect of self growth daunt you? Are you aware that you need to learn and grow. Are you put off by the struggle, dedication and sacrifice you anticipate is involved? Does the thought of the pain and sweat make you not want to start…

Confidence, Individuals

Life Purpose- find Motivation and Inspiration for your life work

Do you lack motivation? Is inspiration missing in your life? Are you lacking the clarity in your focus to move decisively along your path? Or is that indecision only highlighted when you change course? Do you find yourself frustrated following…

Confidence, Individuals

Taking Action and what you can learn from it

When you do something new and step out of your comfort zone there are mind sets that are going to inspire you to take action. There are other mind sets that will do the opposite. Therefore, it is essential that you give attention and energy…

Confidence, Individuals

The Power of Yes

Yin and Yang of " Yes" and "No" This month's blog is about "yes" and the power it can have in our lives. Everything works in balance. Last month's blog we discussed "no". Each time we say "no" to something we are also saying "yes" to something…

Confidence, Individuals

The Power of No

"No" is often such a hard word to say. We don't like to disappoint people or let anyone down. And then there is the fear of appearing unreasonable, difficult or arrogant. The importance of "no" At some point in your life you would have…

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Confidence, Individuals

When your body speaks- the power of awareness

You cannot consciously and purposefully change anything without being aware of it first. Awareness gives you power to choose your actions. It is perhaps the single most important aspect essential for personal growth. The Learning Cycle You…

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Confidence, Individuals

Body and Mind- a two way mirror

Your posture in stillness and motion communicates to you and others all the time. The way you hold yourself is conveying to you how you feel and what is going on inside your body mentally, emotionally and physically. Your state of mind influences…

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Confidence, Individuals

Self- Growth, Realising your Potential and Building Confidence

How do you know what you are capable of? What qualities do you possess that lie within you unnoticed and unfulfilled? How are you going to discover these hidden talents? How will these talents manifest in your life? What difference will…

Confidence, Individuals

Being in Your Own Skin

Do you feel comfortable in your own skin? Are external validation and seeking praise from others things you wish for? Does your confidence sink or rise on whether you are accepted? Would you not speak your mind for fear of being ostracised? …

Confidence, Individuals

Embodied Confidence

What is embodied confidence? Have you ever felt the confusion of not knowing how you feel about something? Do you sometimes feel blank when events happen? When someone asks you how you feel, are you able to tell them? Do you try to work…

Confidence, Individuals

How can I be authentic?

Authenticity is an essential part of confidence. If you're going to be confident, then surely you want to be confidently your self, not some constructed mask you imagine you should be or others expect you to be? What is authentically you?…

Confidence, Individuals

How do I get over my nerves?

Do you let nerves get in the way? When nervousness strikes, is that a green light or a red light? Do you see nerves as bad or that something is wrong? Are nerves something only people lacking confidence feel? Are confident, powerful people…

Confidence, Individuals

Am I good enough?

When faced with the challenge of stepping out of your comfort zone do you worry about whether you are good enough? Does this worry stop you from trying and giving it your best shot? Would this mind- set help you rise to the challenge? …

Confidence, Individuals

Being and Doing

Deep powerful coaching is about evoking transformation. This is personal growth. It's about doing things differently and being differently. Doing differently leads to being differently. The converse is true too. Being differently leads…

Confidence, Individuals

Little Signs of Greatness

The Little Signs of Greatness Do you find that people have some really complementary things to say about you that you just don't see? When you compare your self- appraisal at work to others' appraisals of you, do you find there is…

Confidence, Individuals

Do you lose your Focus & Confidence?

Have you noticed that some days you are flying high? As a consequence, everything you do is 'on purpose', feels directed and meaningful? Then other days you are not quite on it? You get side- tracked by other things and your day runs…

Confidence, Individuals

The Impact of Choices

You make choices every moment of every day. Even by not choosing you are deciding NOT to take action. All is choice. So, the life you lead right now is a product of your choices. The question is, are your choices taking you closer or further…

Confidence, Individuals

Listening to your intuition

When your Intuition Speaks You may often hear that intuitive voice. That doesn’t mean you are going to act on it. In my experience, listening to and acting on that intuition can lead to some incredible experiences. Over time, it builds…

Confidence, Individuals

Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

It was Eleanor Roosevelt who said “Do one thing every day that scares you”. In this age of super human heroes in movies, fearless warriors in computer games along with the facade and bravado that people often display in every day life…

Confidence, Individuals

Breaking Habits

Habits can be tough things to break. We make New Year’s resolutions and have tossed them away by the middle of January. We resolve to lose weight or give up smoking. Then stumble under the insistence of cravings or peer group pressure. …

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