There is an investment in your life, whether it is the work you do, building relationships with family, friends and colleagues or life projects.  There is the time, energy and focus.  And then there is a depth to your investment that takes time to drop into and therefore takes time to step out of.

What if with a simple shift of your body, you could have 100% confidence in your leadership ability and decision making? Leadership is an inherent quality in all living things.  In the language of archetypes, that inherent quality is Sovereign.  All living things have the inherent ability to stand in their sovereignty. You can access your sovereignty by the way you stand and hold yourself.  By bringing attention to the alignment, sensations and feelings in the body, you can embrace your Sovereign leadership.

How different would your life be if you felt worthy? Not based on some criteria created by unknown ghosts from the past you never met who said it should be so.  But based on how nature intended.  So that you listened to the inner voice of wisdom that guides you to your highest potential.  A potential that keeps evolving as you evolve.  How free would you feel?  What would you create?  How would you do things differently?  How would you show up?  How would you view failure and how would you learn from your mistakes?  And how would that inspire the next stage of your development and growth?

Inherent self-worth is not about being perfect.  It is about being on the playing field of life.

I wanted to share with you the learning from my recent medical emergency. Just to say, all is well. In fact, I have not felt better, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You will see why as I share. And the reason to share? Well, it crystallises my own learning and it may offer some insight for your own journey of personal growth and self-mastery. At the very least, it might be a good read.

Have you ever been in a job or a relationship where you felt that you were not being yourself?  That by wearing a mask, you would fit in and make that job or relationship work somehow.  Perhaps you really needed the job or felt like it was the job you “should” go for.  Or maybe you didn’t want to be alone, so you were prepared to enter a relationship and hide parts of yourself or put on a show, so that you would feel loved? So, how do you get that authenticity back?  How can you remove the mask?

Have you ever needed resolve to follow through on something in service of a larger goal?  Or fiercely defended a person, belief, purpose or value that is dear to you and under threat?  Have you taken decisive action, even in the face of opposition or disinterest in service of integrity?  Are you ever bravely vulnerable in your relationships and share something with a partner or friend where there is the risk they will laugh at, or ridicule, you?  Do you open yourself to risk of failure?  If you have done any of these, you would have recruited the Warrior archetype.

Conversely, if you haven’t, would it serve you to cultivate Warrior, so that you are better able to honour these qualities in yourself?

Lover is the archetype of love, tolerance, compassion and empathy.  Lover shows us the beauty of connection, humanity and our capacity to care for ourselves, each other and the world.  Through intimacy, Lover shows us how we are all the same.  Sometimes, the hurts of life are too much.  Lover cannot always keep the heart open.  There are times connection is too hard.  When this happens, we close down and withdraw.

And it is right to do so.  Sometimes, turning inward allows the reflection, synthesis and transformation required to open again with more strength.  The broken heart requires tenderness, care and nurturing to heal. 

What brings you joy?  What lights you up?  If you were to “follow your bliss”, as Joseph Campbell said, what would you do?  Who would you be?  When I ask these questions, sometimes people say “well, that’s just fantasy!!” in a cynical way.  If that’s you, this blog is not for you.  If these questions touch a longing inside of you, a spark or flame that wants to burn brighter, then you might well find something interesting in what lies below.

Do you ever feel like it’s Groundhog Day?  Do you feel stuck in an area of your life and think that it’s never going to change?  That no matter how hard you try, this situation is never going to be any different?  Are there things in your life where you know you haven’t moved forward or notice that you keep bumping up against the same obstacles?  Is that frustrating to you?  Are you fed up with the repetition and sense of Groundhog Day?

When the coronavirus pandemic started, we were encouraged to use an “elbow bump”. An informal and COVID-safe greeting that replaced the handshake. In 2021, however, I have been introduced to the Corona Bow. I think I prefer bowing to bumping. It points to self-respect, mutual appreciation, trust and humility. But, what does bowing have to do with coaching?