You make choices every moment of every day. Even by not choosing you are deciding NOT to take action. All is choice. So, the life you lead right now is a product of your choices. The question is, are your choices taking you closer or further away from the things that are really important to you?
It does not have to be the huge things that this affects. Although the answer to this question will influence the quality of your life. As well as the path you take upon that journey. Each step along that journey also has a flavour, an ambience and a resonance. That either aligns with the things that you value in life, or it does not.
When my wife and I got married, we made a purposeful commitment to have a wedding celebration that honoured the things that we felt were important to us: family, children, close friends, fun, good food, elegance, homeliness, beautiful surroundings in nature….. the list goes on. The day was beautiful. Along the way to organising the day, we were faced with decisions that were full of often overwhelming choices. It was challenging. On the whole we did not allow ourselves to become distracted from what we felt was most important. At times we made choices that others did not like. These moments were dealt with in a compassionate way and for the most part people were very understanding.
Clarity makes Choices easier
Being clear about what is of value to you gives you clarity. Taking a little time out to reflect on what is important may be invaluable to you to make sure you are moving in the right direction. This can be particularly important when faced with the fast pace of modern business and personal lives. Living aligned to your values helps to keep you focussed and energised. It may even give you the confidence and belief that you are heading in the “right” direction. Even when you are not necessarily totally sure of where you are headed. The beauty and wonder of life unfolds in its own time.
You build your future here and now. So make sure you are building a future that is full of the things that are really important to you. As these things change, you will change your future accordingly. Being aware of the process keeps you in touch with the shifting sands of your life and its passions, drives and motivations.
Determining your Values
So how do you know what your values are? One such way is to connect to a “peak” experience. A moment when things felt perfect and you were in the flow. I had one such moment at my wedding: looking out over the small crowd of loved ones who had come to celebrate our special day with us, the venue, the setting, the games, the music and feelings of connection that came with it. When I make choices in my life I do so in reference to these values. They inform my choices, creating my present and my future and building a past that I am becoming increasingly proud of.
I’d love to hear your stories of how value- based choices have enhanced your life. How have they built great memories and helped to create wonderful futures for you and your loved ones? It is the unfolding of your potential in its many forms that helps to create a life of meaning and fulfilment. Live it well.
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