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Personal Growth- Who’s walking through your mind with dirty feet?

If you are interested in personal growth, be that for business or career development, or simply to be more content and fulfilled in life, you’ll understand the significance of remaining positive.

One of the key factors contributing towards your growing positivity is being discerning about who you spend your time with.  As one of my great spiritual teachers told me, “You are who you sit with”.  Jim Rohn said it this way, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.

Once you know and understand this truth, you recognise the significance of keeping the mind free of negativity.  As Gandhi put it, “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.”

Positivity and Personal Growth

A positive mind set is one oriented towards abundance, growth, creativity and movement forward.  There are many factors that contribute to that positive way of viewing the world: exercise; nutrition; rest; education; spending time on nature; sleep; contribution; hydration; reducing intake of toxic substances such as alcohol, drugs, pharmaceuticals, tabbaco etc; surrounding yourself with people who support, nourish and cherish you and; limiting your contact with those that undermine, erode and corrode your confidence and well-being.

Conscious Choice

               Positive Intention

Living with a positive mind set does not happen by accident.  It requires intentionality and commitment.  To connect to your values and align to them.  To live life on purpose, have routines that promote good sleep, health, rest and well-being, find the silver lining of every cloud and seek out the input that inspires uplifting thoughts and a growth mind set.  Therefore, sharing your time and space with people who are positive and uplifting, is an essential part of your personal growth journey.  Actively seeking those people out and spending time with them not only feels good.  They act as role models for who you are becoming.  They walk through your mind with clean feet.

               Negative Intention

Negativity takes just as much intentionality.  It seems crazy that someone should intentionally seek out negativity.  It’s just that, as a society, we are more practised at negativity than we are positivity.  Humans may well be programmed biologically to see the risk and danger in situations, but that is not the same as negativity.

When you see risk and danger, it can empower you to take positive action.  But, when awareness of risk and danger lead you to worry, anxiety and depressive thoughts, the mind is now tipping into negative thinking.  If you surround yourself with negative relationships or watch entertainment with a negative spin to it, people are walking through your mind with dirty feet.  And they leave quite a mess.

Negativity and the Inner Critic

So, on the personal growth journey, you understand that it is important to be intentional about remaining positive.  You know it feels better, people respond to you in a more positive way, life is more fun, opportunities open for you and you feel inspired to take them.

And you understand the impact negative thinking people have on how you feel.  They can quickly bring you down and then you begin having the dark thoughts that come with negative thinking.  Before you know it, your inner critic’s voice is in the driver’s seat and directing your thoughts, decision making and actions.

Be mindful that watching too much News, soap operas and other things that bring you down will have a negative impact on your mind set and mental health.

Mind Management for Personal Growth

Guard your mind. It is one of the gateways to a fulfilled and meaningful life.  And it will orient itself towards what you focus on.

               Dirty Feet in the Mind

I have been working on a project in my garden recently, carefully creating a beautiful space for us to enjoy and share the late afternoon and early evening sun.  It has been a labour of love.  The other day, I was making some noise, drilling paving stones and concrete out to make way for more aesthetically pleasing shingle.  As I was working, I heard someone complaining from over the fence.  The neighbour concerned became very abusive almost immediately.  It left a bitter taste in my mouth and very quickly, my mind was becoming abusive towards me too.  My neighbour’s dirty feet had left a trail in my mind and my inner critic was all over it.

I have been here before.  Perhaps you have too.  People’s bad mood or negative thinking can infect my mind and very soon I am feeling down too.  That negative mind set can take hold and build momentum, by which time I am being cruel to myself and to those I love.  Therefore, I have learned that I have to take action quickly to turn it around.

               Cleaning up the Mess

In that instance, I focused on what I appreciate about the space I am working on, my life, myself and the people closest to me.  I practice gratitude for as much as I can think of in my life that brings me pleasure and joy.  Soon, the momentum of the inner critic slows and finally comes to a standstill.  And then momentum picks up the other way, towards positive thinking, appreciation and gratitude.

Protect your Personal Growth

The mind is a fluid thing.  The pathways and connections are changing moment to moment.  Taking care to protect your positive mind set is so important for your on-going personal growth.  Do not let dirty feet into your mind.  And when they walk in uninvited, do your best to sweep up the mess as quickly as you can once you usher them out.

“I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” Gandhi

What I love about Gandhi’s saying is that he is adamant that he will not allow people entry into his mind when they bring negativity.  He was an advocate for non-violence and a role model to Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King.  His firm stance about guarding his mind is not passive and weak.  It has a strength to it that is non-negotiable.  It is a mind set that takes some personal growth to cultivate and is not always easy.  Yet, when we get there, we see the world as loving, abundant and generous.  No need for fear and a chance to live with an open, loving heart.

Over to You

What impact do other people have on your personal growth journey?  How have those relationships changed as you have grown?  What new relationships have you cultivated?  How have you managed your long-standing, old relationships?  How do you guard your mind?  What do you do if people walk through your mind with dirty feet?  What are your thoughts on Gandhi’s words?  I’d love to hear your thoughts.  Please share them in the comments.

Pass it on

Did you find this blog useful?  What did you get out of it?  Do you know a friend, relative or colleague who would benefit from gaining that same understanding or learning?  If so, perhaps they would appreciate it if you sent this blog to them?  I would love it if you did.  And I imagine they would too. Thank you.

Being and Doing

Being differently leads to behaving and living in a new way

Being differently leads to behaving and living in a new way

Deep powerful coaching is about evoking transformation. This is personal growth. It’s about doing things differently and being differently.

Doing differently leads to being differently. The converse is true too. Being differently leads to doing differently.

Being is a physical, emotional and energetic process that means you interact with the world in a certain way. What you do is driven by your state of being. What you do enforces your state of being.

Evoking transformation

Coaching works best when you have a willing client who is keen to evoke transformation in their lives. Usually that looks like doing things differently. By working with the client to bring about awareness of their values and beliefs, they are in a position to honour and challenge those thoughts consciously. Your state of being is fluid and you can take conscious control of that state so that you can do things differently in your life.

An American Indian Tale

There is the story of the man who found an abandoned eagle chick. He took it home and put it with his chickens to nurture it. The eagle grew up in the company of chickens and believed him self to be a chicken. Even though he looked different, he behaved as the chickens did. He pecked at seeds on the ground, he did not fly. He was content. Then one day he saw another eagle flying high above the coup and wondered how wonderful it would be to fly so high and free.

While the eagle was being a chicken in his heart and mind, that is what he would be and what he would do. He would need to change his perceptions of him self before he would be able to realise the potential that lay dormant inside him. And this is the key point. He had the potential.

What would Muhammad Ali say?

There is a school of thought I subscribe to that says that if you can conceive of a thing you can make it manifest in your life. The Brand New Heavies song You are the Universe advocates such a mind set.  Anything you conceive of you can achieve. Will you do all that it takes to make it real?

‘I am the greatest. I said this even before I knew I was.’ Muhammad Ali

Muhammad Ali spent years saying he was the greatest and proved it to the world early in his career. He was being the greatest long before he was. And once he became the greatest boxer he also became a phenomenal spokesperson for a generation and a nation.

What do you long for? How can you create the being state that allows you to manifest that truth in the world when you put your heart and soul into it? Even Muhammad Ali had a coach. He had to do the work, want it enough and it started for him by believing he was the greatest. He believed it authentically. What do you believe authentically that would be the highest version of your self? What mind- set can you create that means you achieve the goals you want in the manner you desire?

As promised…….

Last month I spoke about bringing awareness to a client’s inner being so that she could make choice about how to move forward. I promised to share the outcome. Remaining mindful of her chosen state of being, she was able to act from this place and achieve more powerful win- win interactions. With confidence and calm she was able to face all the challenges she met and come out of it with grace and integrity. Well done to her and thank you for allowing me to share your story so that I could share the power and strength of being.

Over to you

How has inner transformation changed your life?  What have you done differently that has made a powerful internal change?  How has thinking differently given you permission to act in a different way?  Gratitude is a huge change of state in being for me and it has altered the way I approach people and situations.  How has it affected you.

Next time

Continuing on this theme, next month I will be looking at the affect “lack” and “abundance” mind- sets have on our lives and the steps we can take to move towards greater abundance.

Why not………..

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