Is relaxation a stranger to you? Do you find yourself getting irritated at the drop of a hat? Is long- lasting contentment something that eludes you? Do you struggle to experience true peace in your life?
Does your body feel tense most of the time? How is your posture and do you experience aches and pains in your body regularly? Do you find it challenging to adapt to change?
If your response to these questions is “yes”, then you might be struggling with remaining centred. Centring affects all four of your states of being- the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. When you lose centre you give away your power physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
In martial arts we speak about being centred. This means keeping your posture well balanced and strong, moving from that place of strength and continuing to move from that place of strength, regardless of the situation you are in.
This is a metaphor for all life situations. When you are off centre you do not feel strong. You feel doubtful, unsure, lacking confidence, strength and power.
In a physical context, being off- centre means you do not move well and you lack strength. Emotionally, when you are off centre you react poorly to situations. You might over- react or give an inappropriate response. You may shut down and struggle to express your true emotions. Mentally, you might be rigid in your mindset and so find it hard to adapt to changing conditions. Spiritually, you may find yourself guided by your conscious, logical mind consistently, rather than by your intuitive, relational, creative subconscious when it would better serve you.
Balance and Centre
When you find your centre all of that changes. To do that you need to bring your awareness to your body, mind, emotions and spiritual energy, find the point of balance and relax into the calm experience of the present. That is at least how I experience it.
Once you find your centre you are physically more confident. You stand taller, stronger and more present. Adaptability, versatility and spontaneity are more easily achieved. You are less likely to injure yourself, eat poorly, remain inactive too long or over do yourself physically.
Emotionally, you are better equipped to experience your emotions and express them in an appropriate way.
Mentally your mindset is more fluid and at the same time you are more confident to argue your case without being defensive and aggressive.
Spiritually, you realise your life experience is not a solo venture. It is a co- creation with all the many facets of your life and existence. You are not a lone wolf, you are part of an indivisible whole. And you are on your unique journey that contributes to that whole that only you can do. Therefore, it serves you and everyone else for you to be centred for then you can share your unique gifts with the world.
Awareness and Relaxation
Keeping centre is a matter of awareness, balance and relaxation. Tension takes you off- centre. Walking through life asleep keeps you off- centre. You remain out of balance when unaware and so sustained centring is impossible to achieve. You might stumble upon it by chance, only to lose it moments later.
Practice centring throughout your life. It is an essential ingredient of confidence. Make it a life- long study in all 4 areas of your being- physical, mental, emotional and spiritual- and see your confidence soar.
Over to you
What is your experience of being centred? Has it been easy? Do you find it a struggle? How does it affect your well- being? When centred, do you find relaxation and balance easier to sustain? Please share your successes and challenges in the comments section below and help bring the world to centre.
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